Failing to take responsibility in your own life can be an easy out. Things are never your fault. It is never up to you to resolve your own concerns. There is no self-sufficiency. Personal responsibility is key to your success.
Those who reject being personally responsible give away their power to lead in their own lives. If you often feel victim to circumstance, ask yourself if you have honestly brought personal responsibility to the situation. It often seems easier to blame others and situations outside of you rather than infuse the effort it takes to think and act independently.
There is a deeper layer to personal responsibility. It is the concept of being of service to others. If, in everything you do, you ask yourself how can I be of service, you automatically take personal responsibility. When you relate to others through this filter, you show up in a whole different way. Imagine a world where everyone in every role they took on showed up asking how can I help you.
How can I serve you puts the responsibility on me and gives me the opportunity to be action oriented, pro-active and a contribution to others. When you don’t make it all about you and you consider the needs of others, you create valuable relationships. Of course, this is a much easier game to play when you are surrounded by like-minded people or not under stressful conditions. The real test is staying in that state of mind when things get crazy and you’ve had no sleep. But it’s a good goal.
When a situation goes awry, the other question to ask is how am I cause in the matter. If you are never cause in the matter, you have no power. Pointing the blame outside yourself at others or the circumstances of your life only serves to generate victim thinking. You have completely given up your power.
Take one day and practice personal responsibility. Notice the impact it has on you and others around you. My guess is for the effort you infuse, you will experience greater ease and a gentler interaction with others.