This weekend, I’m supporting coaches in training as they complete their final module and prepare to launch their careers. It is not only an honor but also a great opportunity to be present again to the powerful material of iPEC’s Core Energy Leadership paradigm.
One of the coaching questions I was reminded of was asking yourself “what are you currently tolerating in life?” It’s like pulling back the drapes or opening the trap door to the attic.
When we tolerate something, it means we have put in place a coping mechanism that helps us to get by. We may think it is a solution or a way of staying in motion. The reality is it often takes up space and energy in our thoughts because, on a deeper level, we know it is simply a stop gap short term solution. Ultimately, it doesn’t resolve the situation.
Often when our loved ones are going through cancer treatments, we tolerate things because we…
- feel it is in their better interests
- don’t have the time to address it
- are afraid to rock the boat
- don’t have the energy to deal with it
- fear it may create conflict
- are just trying to survive each day
In the end, tolerating and coping costs everyone. Sustainable caregiving isn’t attainable by just getting by and making it work. It’s time to identify, complete or reframe the things you keep brushing aside as no big deal as they do impact your quality of life.
Working with a coach is a fast, effective way to set up action plans for the items that can be completed and to learn the skill of reframing to transform your experience of situations or circumstances you cannot change. Ask me how.