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I help cancer survivors and caregivers to move from surviving to thriving.

12 responses to “After & Before Blog @ Worry, Worry, Worry”

  1. Roy A. Ackerman, Ph.D., E.A.

    Tambre: Worrying is part of our nature- one we could do better without, unless we use it to goad us into action. I know these are easy words to say, but…
    We have a hard enough time coping with the present, making sure we do the best we can each minute of the day. Why drop the ball to worry about something that may never happen tomorrow? And, if you did it yesterday- make amends and move on. Do the very best you can today- and enjoy it – today. We have no promises that we’ll be here tomorrow.
    (Coming from someone who has survived – thank the Supreme Being- many accidents and travails.)

  2. Bonnie

    Tambre, the point you make about working through what beliefs are limiting you and the emotions behind the worry are crucial. We do have to learn to manage the symptoms but if we don’t address the underlying issues that is all we are doing.

    Thank you for sharing your struggles and wins regarding this. I think too many people let worry and fear immobilize them and prevent them from living their fabulous lives.

  3. Roberta Budvietas

    Once upon a time I learned about a worry jar. A simple concept where you wrote your worries on a piece of paper and put them into a jar. Then as a family we sat down at a particular time to go through the worries and decide if we could solve them. We found the first week that nearly 50% of what we were worried about had resolved themselves. Another 20% we could not do anything about so we put them back in the jar for the next week and the rest took us less than an hour to work out a solution. We ran that worry jar for about 6 months and at the end of the time, there were no real worrying being done.
    Over the next 20 years, when worry caused stress and sleepless nights, we brought out the worry jar. Just thinking – may need to pull it out again.
    It is amazing how focused you can get when you plan a worry time

  4. Carrie Tucker

    I love it!

    A major turning point for me happened when one of my favorite teachers asked me a question.

    She said, “what is the opposite of vulnerable?”

    I said, “powerful.”

    She said, “no, the opposite of vulnerable is safe.”

    Don’t know why it was such an aha for me, but I immediately felt that I was safe in God’s arms. No matter what, I still am today. Even if I lie down and die, I am safe in God’s arms.

    Sometimes peace defies all understanding. I’ll take it any way I can get it 😉

    Many blessings,
    Carrie

  5. Martha Giffen

    Prayer, meditation, and writing a daily journal is how I keep worries at bay. Keep focused on the things I can change and let everything else take care of itself. It works for me!

  6. Diana Simon

    Hi Tambre,

    I completely agree with you that we have to understand the source of our worry. I have learned to let go of my worries and one way of doing that is what you have shared. I make a list task to tackle the worry.

    I realize that keeping myself in action has helped me move forward and understand there really wasn’t such a big issue to be worried about.

    The next time I worry, I want to see where this source is coming from. It would be very interesting :)

  7. Samantha Bangayan

    I really love the idea of setting aside the small worries, Tambre! It’s kind of like crossing things off my to-do list. When it feels like there are less worries, the overall stress factor decreases.

    One thing I noticed during my time here in Peru is that I worry much less. Things seem to be going wrong *all* the time that there’s no point in worrying. I almost expect things to go wrong and then laugh it off. =P

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